My father works for the city, he does city maintenance. He was recently fired from his job three weeks ago because he has two D.U.I’s on his driving record and does not want to attend his A.A. classes. My father is a handyman and skilled in general construction. He can build you anything. But drinking has affected his focus especially at home. My mom tells him to stop drinking but he admits he is simply addicted to alcohol. He bought a 2008 Silverado when it first came out and the car hasn’t even reached 30,000 miles but the truck is damaged all around from him hitting things when he drives home drunk. What can I do to make him stop drinking?

Aldair Maldonado

-Whittier, Ca

Its disappointing when a loved one begins to harm oneself and those around him. His addiction is definitely something that has become a burden upon your mother and yourself. An intervention is definitely needed. He has already taken the first step in admitting he has an addiction. He has acknowledged the problem which is difficult to do. Next, would be to ask him if he wants help for his problem. Addictions of any sort are a sickness that must be cured. However, if he does not want help, then you can’t push it on them. The want for help must come from him. If he doesn’t ask and denies help, then it could possibly mean he isn’t ready to give up his drinking. Until he sees the meaning and well being that healing himself will do, he wont have a reason to motivate him to move forward to better himself. If he actually decides to get help, then seeking for a place that could help him would be the next step. Be prepared to pull together as a family and support him because it wont be an easy thing. Such classes as Alcholics Anonymous offer support for family members as well. If all else fails, have a heart to heart with your father. Tell him how you feel. Make him see the importance of quitting his habit. Bottom line is that you cant make him stop drinking. He is the only one who can make that decision. You can find further information or assistance on this site: www.aa.org

Ok, I need advice, Bely. There is this guy I like but he’s the real macho type. He plays hard to get just like me and being how I am, I won’t be the one to tell him how I feel-he will have to open up to me first. He’ll text me here and there but I get the feeling he likes someone who will pursue him-I am not that type. I’m getting mixed signals and I’m starting to think maybe he doesn’t like me? But then again, he will flirt with me so I’m like wtf? I barely talk to him but I really like him. I doubt he is confused like I am. He should be able to tell whether I am interested or not, right? What should I do, Bely!!

Medina

-L.A.

It ain’t easy, girls, it ain’t easy. So this is what is going to have to happen: one of you must budge. Texts are far less impersonal than an on-the-phone or even face-to-face conversation. If you don’t have enough courage to clarify what is the deal between both of you, then text him and ask him. Or for crying out loud, just ask him upfront. The worst that can happen is that he says he’s not into you. The thing with these types of guys is that 1. they want to have their cake and eat it too, meaning they don’t want to be committed to one girl. And 2. having a girl pursue him is only an ego booster to him. What he doesn’t know is that you wont tolerate mind games. It also sounds like you are a very firm individual, aka you are stubborn. If you wont be the bigger person to solve this love mystery, then you’re not in the right to complain. Yes, we as women like to be chased, but once in a while the tables get turned. If you really like him, then go get your man, girl. Cut to the chase and find out where you stand. The sooner you figure it out, the less time you will be wasting your time, if you are wasting it at all. He might just be shy. Any how, tell him like Fergie: “meet me half way.”

All right, my ex boyfriend and I broke up in January. Initially we broke up because of the distance; I go to school on the west coast and he was leaving for college for the east coast. We ended on pretty good terms and we would still talk to each other almost every 2 weeks. Most of the time he would text me first, telling me that he missed me etc.. Well we continued to talk until we got back here for summer. Everything was normal once again, he was so loving towards me. All of a sudden, he started acting strange. For example, he would never ask me to hang out with him anymore; pretty much trying to avoid me. To make a long story short, we met up for our last time before we went back to our universities. Again, he was so caring and loving towards me, either way we ended on GOOD terms. A few weeks ago i found out he de-friended me on Facebook and my Twitter. I don’t understand why, if we ended on good terms and since he was the one to be the first to call an end to our relationship. Bely, maybe you can help me understand why he would want to de-friend me? Doesn’t he still want to be my friend? Help me out please!

Melinda

-Tampa, FL

If he has removed you from his social networking sites, it is because he doesn’t want you to know about what he is up to. He is probably trying to avoid the “drama” which consists of opening the door to your questions. Questions about what he writes or pictures you see. Asking about “who is she?” Or “what did you mean by that?” Lets keep it real, we all get nosey like that when it comes to our ex’s. It is possible that he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings by being himself as he moves on with his life without you. If you ended on good terms, then I doubt he doesn’t want to be your friend. I think he may feel its better for him to keep you a distance and out of his business so he doesn’t hurt your feelings by being the new him: the single him. Don’t take it so personal, chica, Im sure you are a great girl and I’m not saying he isn’t a great guy, all I’m saying is that someone’s loss is another’s treasure. On the contrary, maybe he “de-friended” you because seeing you or hearing about you would hurt him. Maybe it was hard enough to break-up with you and didn’t want to be reminded of you aside from letting you go. Give things time to settle, to close open wounds. Whether you ended on good terms or not, both of you need closure.

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MELISSA ANNE IS THAT DOWN TO EARTH MODEL YOU CAN HANG WITH, TALK TO AND APPROACH. NINE5FOUR HAD THE OPPORTUNITY TO SIT DOWN AND TALK WITH THIS CANADIAN BEAUTY!

THE BASICS

5 MINUTES WITH: MELISSA ANNE

Who are some of your role models? I have different role models for each aspect in my life; I look up to anyone who is driven, motivated and successful. They influence me to keep working hard and never give up. I could not list of names; I just look up to people who know who they are and have a good head on their shoulders.

How do you seduce a guy? For my boyfriend I will start off with a massage, a little strip tease, a bubble bath together or lacy black see through lingerie.

If you were an animal, what would you be? A tiger because their strong, fierce plus their bold and courageous.

Some models say they feel sexy and even turned on when posing for the camera. Do you feel that way when posing? I definitely feel sexy when posing; it’s all about seducing the camera and creating that sexy aura so it shows in the picture.

What’s the worst pick-up line ever used on you? Are you from Tennessee cause you’re the only ten I see. Any pick up line is pretty useless, makes the guy sound like a player and you know he’s not only used that line on you. Humor is what works best with girls, so crack a joke instead.

What advice would you give to anyone trying to approach you? Be witty, charming and tell a joke. I love a guy who can crack me up.

Who do you think has the best and worst body in the industry today? The best body in show business is Daisy Fuentes, I love her Pilates DVDs and she keeps herself fit and healthy. I would say Jayde Nicole (Canadian Playmate) as well; she eats really well and follows a really healthy lifestyle which shows. I don’t think I’ll answer who has the worst body.

What is your biggest fear? To not be successful in life, and have regrets

Have you ever cheated on your partner? No, but I have been cheated on. I could never do that to anyone, I’d break up with them first. I would feel too guilty and I know what it feels like.

What’s the craziest thing you have ever done on a first date? He was staying on his yacht. This was in Newport Beach (Cali) and we snuck into the yacht’s facilities hottub after hours (3am) we jumped over the fence and went skinny dipping and made out like crazy.

Do you have any special skills or hobbies? I’m good at character impersonations and I also sing. I have been singing since I was seven.

What are some of the things that relax you? Going to the beach and listening to the waves, watching the stars, going camping, bubbles baths, hot tubs, and deep massages

What can be found under your clothes? A thong or a gstring

What is your relationship status? Single, but looking for that special someone

Do you approach men that you like or do you let them come to you? I won’t approach a guy; I am to shy when it comes to that.

What do you do for a living? Bartender and I do promotional work. I was going to school (Early childhood care) but I’m taking a long break right now

What do you like to sleep in if anything? I don’t like to sleep in anything, if you snuck into my bedroom you would find me wearing nada.

Tell us, who are some of the models you look up to as a guide? Adriana Lima, Daisy Fuentes, any Victoria’s Secret model. I love them all

What was your first shoot like? How did the pictures turn out? Nerve-wracking, I was so shy before, I loved the results though

Besides Nine5Four, Have you been approached by any other magazines or agencies? Yes, I have a couple shoots coming up with some mens magazines

During a shoot, what is running through your head? Be seductive

What type of model would you want to be labeled as in the industry? Glamour/Commercial/Latin

What types of modeling jobs would you consider doing and what jobs are off the list completely? The only type of modeling I won’t do is anything adult. I also will not do any nude shoots.

If anyone is interested in using you for their product, how can they find you? Melissa Cubanita on facebook or on myspace http://www.myspace.com/melissa503a

Besides modeling, what other things do you like to do? Sing dance and in my spare time play video games, amusement parks, and travel

What types of music genre’s do you like? R&B/ Hip hop/ emo alternative/ country/indie/ I like all types of music

Where is your favorite place to go? Florida, I love the weather and the beaches, Cali would be second

Are you a Dinner and a movie or picnic in the park type of girl? Picnic in the park type of girl, I am a huge outdoors girl.

What do you think attracts the opposite sex to you? My sense of humor, and that I’m friendly and approachable.

If you had a billion dollars, what would you do with it? I would travel and give a lot to the less fortunate, I would donate to every charity that’s important to me, and go to Cuba and give a lot of it to my family over there.

What’s the most unusual place you’ve ever hooked up? How’d it go? Outside on a rock with a blanket, and the view of the ocean (Oregon coast), it was a secret spot between me and my ex, it was amazing, it always felt like someone was going to catch us, but that was the thrill of it, also outside the beach on a hammock

What do you feel most comfortable wearing? Jeans and a tshirt type of girl, but im comfortable most when I’m naked

What’s the most common misconception about you? That I am not down to earth, and people judge me before they get to know me.

What is your interpretation of sexy? Someone who’s confident.

With the pitfalls that can sometimes plague this industry, what measures have you put into place to make sure you stay on your path? I have turned down things before because of this industry; it can be so crude and can make you sell your soul. I just stay true to myself; I have good morals and don’t let anyone bring me down. I know models that will do anything to get into a big magazine or get their name out there.

How will you know when you have reached the pinnacle of your success as a model? When I am in Maxim and on billboards

As you continue to make your mark on the industry, reader’s want to know...what’s the next step for you? I want to start working on my demos so I can reach my goal of having my own album.